The Skeleton of life is always a lesson to be learnt as a student was once asked by a professor what the bottle of water in his hand weighs? he replied 500grams the professor smiled and said we won’t know the weight of the bottle until we weigh it. Then he asked another question what if I hold this bottle for some minutes what will happen? The student replied nothing, he asked again what if I hold it for few hours or more then the student answered than your arm will be paralyze to an extreme pain.
The Lesson learnt from the illustration was the weight of the bottled did not change during the time the professor held it but only thing that change was how long he holds it.
The bottle of water represents out our challenges, problems, Worries, Anxieties about uncertainty that the longer we hold them the more pain they cause.
Most moving and powerful quotes of Nelson mandela was when he said “when I walked out the door towards the gate that would lead to my freedom, I know that if I didn’t leave behind every bitterness and hatred I still be imprisoned” We pollute our conciseness when we allow envy and anger to enter the inner cores of our mind bring in negativity injecting anxiety and uncertainty into the way we think and that why Mahatma Grandhi said, “I wouldn’t let any one walk through my mind with their dirty feet” But over times we see that it’s our own very shows that is causing the dirty, forgiveness and letting go and the ability to rise above other challenge that are being caused by other in our life such an important ability because we need to learn to accept apologies that we never received.
I believe that you can’t fix yourself by breaking someone else it’s like what Budda Said “Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”
When we recognize that by holding negative feelings towards another individual simple only harms the way we think when we’ll truly be able to forgive, move on and let go and realise that the internal healing is what let us take care of the External circumstance and this is not easy at all but because we’ve all being cause pain sometimes to extreme length, sometimes our heart have been broken, sometimes our trust have been misused, something we have been exploited sometimes our loyalty has been tested.
And that’s why forgiveness excuse the behaviour but it prevents the behaviour from negatively affecting us and our ego, wants us to put others in their place but we should try to put ourselves in their place